I can’t simplify Christmas. I just can’t. I love the idea of homemade gifts but I can’t even sit down with the Rainbow Loom for 10 minutes without wanting to snap it in half over my knee. I have been knitting a scarf – since 2005. Why bother making my own preserves to gift over the holidays when I can mosey down to the specialty grocer and pick up something decadent without breaking a sweat, scalding my finger or cursing over botched batches. No sir. If you want to simplify the holidays, go on-line and get it all done with a few clicks of your mouse and a pounding to your credit card.
But the truth of the matter is that I would like my day-to-day life to be simpler, calmer and for me to be more present in the minutes as they pass.
Almost everyone around me is CRAZY BUSY, myself included. In fact most people declare it like their worth is somehow tied to just how CRAZY BUSY they are. In this model, success, talent, and with-it-ness is directly related to how many emails arrive in your in-box with each ping, how many activities are scheduled in the day and the number of projects that are being juggled.
What’s next OUTLANDISHLY BUSY?
I am blessed to have so many choices – something I realize is not a reality for many people. But sometimes I wonder why I feel the need to grasp at everything? Why do I want to experience it all? Is it, in fact, to relish in the process and find happiness in the moments or am I choosing to swell my to-do list to satiate my ego? Quell my insecurities? Or maybe I am just greedy and because I have been told that I can have it all, I want it all.
The truth of the matter is, I used to equate slower paced living with laziness but now I think it’s smarter living and come the new year, I want to be living smarter. In an effort to simplify my life, I have decided not to say “yes” but instead, “I will get back to you”, making mindful decisions about my time and in turn (hopefully) creating a more fulfilled life instead of a more filled life.
I have finally realized that what counts as “simple” changes over time. I used to be the hand-knit gifts and homemade preserves gift giver, all delivered with hand-made cards. That was truly the easier way during that season of my life when I had more time than money. And, it brought me a great deal of joy to do it. Now, the tables are turned and time is the more precious commodity. To do those things now would feel like a chore, not a delight. I’ve changed. The demands on my time have changed. And, so, my definition of a “simple” gift has changed too.
Great post, BA. “I’ll get back to you” would be a great mantra for 2014.