The Taming of Lists

With the help from a few friends, I present to you an informal poll on how mothers feel about lists.  Participants were asked to speak the first word that came to mind when they hear the word “list”.  The responses:

  • tyrannical
  • insulting
  • essential
  • stress
  • organization

I perhaps need not point out to you that a majority of the respondents had a negative association with lists. Not, of course, that any respondent considered living without them.  Although one does sometimes try, to her inevitable detriment.

So… what’s a mother to do?  I have a couple of ideas.  The first is, you could try ditching your list and focusing on accomplishing just One Thing.  This is what this Zen Habits blog post suggests:  focus on just one thing, and get that puppy done.  I think this could work even for multi-tasking mothers, who could have a supplemental list for survival.  But I love the idea of waking up in the morning with one meaningful thing you’d like to accomplish and actually do it.  Then the rest of the day, which undoubtedly crosses other items off that list, feels just extra-productive.

The second option, also a favourite, is the Reverse List.  When the day feels out of hand, and you’re kind of running yourself into a loop by responding to lots of people’s basic needs, take a breather and a crisp piece of blank paper, and make a list of what you’re doing.  Forget your list for a moment; you’re not getting to it anyway.  But write down what you are doing, to demonstrate to yourself that you are, in fact, doing something.  This avoids the risk of reflecting back on the day and being unable to identify what you’ve done, and can give you enough pluck to make the best of what time you do have left.

Because who’s the boss?  You or the list?  You!


Check Your Calendar!

Everyone who knows me, knows that I live my life according to lists and calendars.  My desktop, my computer, my car dashboard, my bedside table, my Iphone are all littered with lists.  Lists of things to do today, tomorrow, this year. Lists of how to improve myself, things to sign the kids up for, improvements for the house.  I LOVE lists almost as much as I LOVE calendars.

I have various versions of my calendar available at my fingertips regardless of where I am.  I have digital copies on my phone and my laptop.  Few things excite me as much as a fresh, old-school, paper and pen day timer.  It’s a sure-bet Christmas gift!

I stumbled across this Dry Erase Calendar Wall Decal ($35 USD)from PBTeen on one of my favourite home sites, Remodelista.

What I find so appealing about this calendar is that kids can have a visual of their week’s programs and play dates.  It is a great way to encourage accountability while giving the wall a punch of colour.

*For younger children, drawing pictures or symbols of their activities can prepare them for the week to come.